An unconventional journey through assisted reproductive technology (and hopefully pregnancy and parenthood.)

About Me

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They say 30's are the new 20's. My wife and I have been together for over a decade now. We both work in the fast paced world of academia. Our state (and recently all others across the country) have finally allowed all marriage so we made that happen October 2014.

I'm a pretty big nerd, I'll be the first to admit. I love video games (yes, as a girl and yes, at my age). I have lots of other nerd hobbies and since I was unceremoniously banned from RuneScape, I've been playing Civilization and Skyrim. My real first nerd love is Magic the Gathering. 10,000 cards and growing, but that's an expensive hobby when you have two babies.

I have other grown-up interests too, especially reading. I like reading so much I have 3 Kindles and I also used to be a martial artist (one belt away from black belt. I'll finish someday.)

But now I've got twins and I have a feeling a lot of those hobbies are going to change.

Sunday, June 22, 2014

Week 9 - The Metamorphosis Begins

All my adult life I've heard how having kids changes you. But since we don't really have other friends that we've seen have kids, it's just been another cliche. Now we're experiencing some of the changes firsthand and our kids aren't even born yet.

First off, we got a Costco membership. We figured we're going to need twice as much of everything we needed before, so Costco seemed the obvious solution. Unfortunately, their diapers start at size 1 and ours won't be in those for a while. But they will need them eventually. And they will need a lot of them and lots of other stuff too. Formula, juice boxes, goldfish crackers, etc.

Next, we joined a moms group. Actually, it's a moms of multiples group. As I mentioned above, we don't have a lot of friends with kids. The ones that do, have older kids, like middle school age. So it's not likely that they'll want to go on play dates with our little ones. We heard about this group and went to our first meeting last week. At first it was really intimidating because we don't socialize much and the lady that was hosting the meeting lived in a really fancy area. But once we got to talking, everyone was really nice and we had a really good time. Plus we realized that we can learn a lot from them.

Time to trade in the cute little 2-door hatchback for a more family friendly car.

Getting up at 6:30 on a Sunday is now the equivalent of sleeping in.

And who knows what else is to come. We've got to take the cat to the vet. You know, the one that was acting nuts after the transfer? Well, he's still acting nuts and it isn't so cute anymore. I think we're going to have to put him on some long-term anxiety medication. He's driving himself crazy and now he's starting to get the other cat all wound up and normally he's very chill. If this is his way of getting us ready for the babies, then point taken. But if he's just having a hard time adjusting to pregnancy hormones, he's in for a hell of a time when the babies actually come. So we've got to get him calmed down.

We have our next baby appointment next week. They're going to do another ultrasound, which normally they wouldn't but because we're in a special situation, we get to see the babies again :)

Sunday, June 8, 2014

Week 7 - 30 more to go...

Long gone are the days when pregnancy was a 9 month deal. Now we know it's measured by weeks, 40 to be precise. However with twins, they're considered full term at 37 weeks. So although the official due date is January 25, they'll probably schedule the delivery sometime around 2nd instead. I'd love to go a day earlier and have New Year's babies, but since it'll be scheduled I guess that'll be up to the doctor.

Up to this point the pregnancy symptoms have been typical. Nausea, boob changes, cramps, etc. I expected those, but I wasn't really prepared for the hormonal waterworks. I'm not an emotional person, myself. At least I don't show emotion well. She's always been the opposite but now, it's a whole new game.

As we were driving home from the grocery store today, listening to the radio as we always do, "Home" by Phillip Phillips comes on. You know, the one they used for the gymnasts at the last Olympics. Nice song, whatever. But then I hear in a choked voice "I think this song is going to make me cry!" So I look over and I'm like what? And she was seriously tearing up and was like "We're going home and I'm making myself a home for the babies!" but then she started laughing, so I ask "Are you fucking with me?" And she laughs and says no, but then we both start laughing. Ah, well. It was a sweet moment.

Friday, June 6, 2014

How are babbies formed?

I guess I might need to change the name of the blog since there are babbies instead of just babby. Yep, twins.

Crazy stuff. After all these years of no babies, now we have two. If everything went correctly during the transfer, it should be a boy and a girl. But you know nothing is 100%.

So far they are right on developmental schedule at 6 weeks 5 days. Size and heartbeats were perfect. First babies in the family in 24 years. Everyone is really excited.

They said a twins pregnancy is pretty much like a single pregnancy until a little later. Then it gets interesting. And now we pretty much know she'll have to have a c-section, which we didn't want but that's pretty much the standard for multiples. Next appointment is July 3.