Hoping For Babby

Friday, June 8, 2012

Random Ultrasound

Well, actually this was supposed to be my day 3 scan but I still haven't gotten my period. I'm finished with the birth control and it should have come Sunday/Monday. But still nothing today. Please, no jokes telling me to take a pregnancy test. It's not as funny as you think it is.

Anyway, the doctor had me come in to see what was going on. This happened before and I actually got my period during the ultrasound before, but not this time. They also took blood to check hormone levels. The doctor said to decrease the Lupron tonight, and I'm glad because that shit really messes me up. And I'm going back for another ultrasound next Tuesday.

So I'm guessing this is going to push back the estimated date of June 20 for the next transfer. It's not really an issue now, though. Today was my last day at work until August, so I have nothing but time. Last year I taught summer school for 5 weeks, but it wasn't in the budget this year. And I'm not really looking for work because I'm on 12 month salary. So I'm going to relax and de-stress myself as much as possible in the next few weeks.

Actually, to help with that my girlfriend and I are going to be seeing a counselor next week. We've both had a very hard time dealing with all this and her psychiatrist recommended this lady that deals with a lot of gay issues and she happens to be gay herself. Not that really matters, but the psychiatrist really thought she would be a good match for us. I'm kind of nervous. I've been in therapy many times before and I always have trouble with knowing what to say. I'm not a big talker. I'm much better at expressing myself in writing. But I'm going to give it a try.

As for the rest of my summer...

My brother is getting married tomorrow, so that should be fun. Except that it's outdoors and we live in a very, very hot climate. Also, my cousin's birthday is this Sunday. After that, my girlfriend is teaching summer school for the next 5 weeks so I'm going to need to amuse myself for a while. And then we'll have some time off together. We want to take a trip, but we're not sure where. A lot will depend on if a pregnancy actually happens this time.

That's it for now. Hopefully there will be more interesting news Tuesday.

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The Backstory

When you're doing fertility treatments, you have to get blood drawn - - a lot. And at my doctor's office there was a poster that said "Hoping for baby?" It was a flyer for a support group and it was right across from the bloodwork chair. So I stared at each time and it started to remind me of the meme from Yahoo Questions "how is babby formed?" I combined the two into what you see here.

Neither my girlfriend or I ever thought we'd be interested in being parents. But then the late 20's set in and both of our biological clocks started ticking. Considering neither of us make sperm, this turned out to be a problem.

It wasn't an option for us to just ask a male friend to help us out and adoption wasn't really an alternative either in our situation. So we figured if we're going to start a family, we would have to go the artificial insemination route. I wanted to carry the baby and she didn't, so it worked out perfectly.

We did some research and picked a doctor. She is the best in our area. We went to her clinic's fertility seminar and signed up for a 2-cycle IUI package with Clomid. The cheapest route, obviously, and we didn't think there would be any problems. I'm basically healthy and my family doesn't have any fertility issues that we know of. But there were problems.

My eggs didn't respond to Clomid well so we switched to an injections. We inseminated and nothing happened. For the second cycle we started with stronger injections from the beginning and it looked promising. But still nothing.

By this time we were getting desperate and poor. The third cycle might not have happened at all if it wasn't for my mom footing most of the bill. But it didn't work either.

We were heartbroken and not sure what we wanted to do next. I knew whatever we decided I wanted to wait. I was emotionally wrecked from the hormones, the disappointment and the stress. Christmas was coming up and I didn't want to ruin my favorite holiday either. We took those months to really assess our situation. The doctor suggested that it might not be wise sinking any more money into IUI and we agreed. But we had no idea how we would pay for IVF.

We're both teachers, so we are by no stretch of the imagination rich. We both come from middle-class families too, so no hidden trust funds or anything like that either. So after Christmas we started exploring our loan options. We thought we might apply for a home equity loan, but it turns out we had no equity so that was out.

But what we did have was a very helpful loan officer that helped us get the money together for a 3-cycle IVF package. We went forward only to be stopped again by my defective uterus after two failed transfers.

So the next step was to try a new uterus and luckily we happened to have another one handy and it worked much better than mine did. Now we've got not one, but two babies on the way and this story just keeps getting more and more interesting.

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